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FAQ

Let’s explore some of our most commonly asked questions through the years…

  • As of September 2025, we are a government-recognized 501(c)(3) nonprofit ministry! All present and also past gifts are retroactively tax-deductible. Our EIN is: 99-4559726.

  • YOB’s director is Tom Zuniga. He organizes our blog and podcast content, as well as our community! Tom also has a volunteer community leadership team which serves to assist him in community matters.

  • In 2024, our YOB leadership decided to pursue a new nonprofit journey with Your Other Sisters (YOS) – two communities working together while also maintaining distinctness. Your Other Family (YOF) is our single nonprofit organization that encompasses both communities of YOB and YOS.

  • Good catch! Our original 2015 tagline was simply: “Navigating faith and homosexuality. Together.” So, this is actually our third tagline since our founding. Our community has certainly evolved through the years. After a year or two of navigating faith and homosexuality, we realized that gender was also a major piece of the story we were telling. So, we added “masculinity” to our tagline. With the addition of straight men, bisexual men, men in mixed-orientation marriages, and men across the sexuality spectrum, we now find “sexuality” a more fitting term over homosexuality. Ultimately, we want our community to be a refuge for men of all stripes, whatever their sexuality.

Our Organization

  • Each of our leadership, contributors, members, and supporters is free to identify however they wish. We don’t police terminology. On our blogs and podcasts, we may use identifiers like “gay,” “queer,” “SSA,” and “sexual minority” interchangeably. You may disagree with someone’s preferred identifier with sexuality, but however you define certain words, our leadership and members share a common historic belief on God’s design for sex and marriage.

  • “Side A” people are followers of Jesus, attracted to the same sex, who uphold an affirming sexual, marriage ethic. “Side B” people are followers of Jesus, attracted to the same sex, who uphold a historic sexual, marriage ethic. Both “Side A” and “Side B” believers are generally comfortable using LGBT+ language to describe their experience of sexual orientation. Most men in YOB identify as “Side B,” though others opt not to identify with LGBT+ language. We are not a “Side A” community. To explore “the four sides,” check out this helpful resource.

  • Since our founding, we’ve called our male supporters YOBBERS. Check out our membership inquiry page to learn about becoming one yourself!

Terminology

  • We never chose to be attracted to the same sex, though we recognize our responsibility to follow Jesus in our sexuality, just as all people of all sexualities must do. We do not believe homosexual attraction, orientation, or temptation is sin, but we do believe God’s design for sex is to be enjoyed exclusively within male-female marriage.

  • We don’t hate LGBT+ people (many of us identify as LGBT+), and we’re not here to judge anyone outside our community. We’re not here to protest or otherwise fight others with affirming interpretations of Scripture, though we may certainly disagree. We’re here to tell our stories and provide refuge for anyone else pursuing a historic belief on marriage and sexuality, however they identify.

  • …kinda? As Christ followers, we believe in His call to lay down our lives for Christ (and others) as He did for us — all of ourselves, our sexual identities included (Galatians 2:20). Though far from a popular path with the culture, we deny ourselves in one way to embrace what we believe is a better way with a better story — His way, His story. Following Jesus was never promised to be easy (John 16:33), but we’ve taken heart and grown emboldened by His provision of fellow siblings on this spiritual journey. You could say we’d have never found ourselves (or each other) without first denying ourselves.

Our Beliefs

  • We are a multi-denominational community, our contributors hailing from diverse faith traditions. As a core spiritual unifier, our leadership aligns with the Apostles’ Creed.

  • The vast majority of our contributors experience varying degrees of same-sex attraction, some opting for LGBT+ terminology and others not. Occasionally we feature contributors who are exclusively opposite-sex attracted.

  • We receive an abundance of requests to participate in our blog and appreciate the enthusiasm! As of now, we only accept blogging submissions from within our community membership.

  • We moderate all comments from visitors, so it may just take a day or two for your comment to become visible. Once you’re established as a responsible commenter, your comments should be approved automatically. Anyone may comment on our site, regardless of your beliefs, provided that comments are respectful. We will not accept comments with profanity or attacks on community members. Disagreements will surely arise but are acceptable with civil discourse. Any sexually suggestive, explicit, or otherwise triggering comments will also not be accepted. You are welcome to share vulnerably in response to our own vulnerable stories, but please share responsibly, not naming any particular apps, websites, specific types of pornography, that may be triggering for other readers. If you think your comment might go “too far,” it’s probably best not to post it. We reserve the right to edit or delete any comment, and if necessary, blacklist repeated offenders from further commenting.

  • We take no ownership over our contributors’ blogs. If anyone chooses to depart YOB as a contributor, he maintains ownership over his blogs. Some choose to take their blogs with them; others allow us to keep them on our site. The removal of our first 39 YOBcasts is explained on YOBcast 049: “Letting Go.”

Our Content

  • We welcome you to subscribe to our quarterly newsletter, along with praying regularly for our ministry. We truly value your prayer support! Financially, you may submit a one-time or recurring gift by visiting our general giving page. If you’re interested in YOB membership, we have a separate giving page for our members. Just shoot us a membership inquiry! We’re especially eager to build a support network of regular monthly giving.

  • Our board of directors for Your Other Family sets a budget and determines where all funds go. Beyond site and equipment costs, a large portion of our funds go toward Tom’s and Erin’s dedicated employment with YOB and YOS, respectively.

Our Community

  • Our members receive access to a private Discord server for discussions, as well as invitations to regular Zoom calls, including semi-monthly book clubs. Additionally, all of our members receive invitations to join our annual retreat (separate event costs apply).

  • Our community holds space for men-only in YOB, women-only in YOS, and overlapping spaces in YOF. We encourage our members to partake in our community offerings as much as you feel led to do so!

  • As a special thank you for our financial supporters and members, we aim to organize annual retreats just for them. Check out our membership page for more information on joining YOB!

  • Currently, we do not organize local support groups, although our growing community has organically organized with one another in various regions across America, even abroad. We may explore forming organized local groups upon our pending nonprofit’s formation.

  • Absolutely! We welcome straight people who are good fits for our community. As with all of our other YOB and YOS members, we vet all prospective members for spiritual and relational alignment with our values. Shoot us a membership inquiry if you wish to join our community!

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