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The Flags I Fly Over Myself
If I strictly fly the flag of my sexuality, I view the world solely through my attractions. I see everything in life as related to homosexuality.
My Passion Comes from Pain
I know what it's like to hurt, to have nowhere to go. This is why I keep ministering to people who need to hear that Jesus loves them.
The Futile Fantasy of Straight-Baiting
"Straight-baiting" has always fascinated me: the act of tricking a heterosexual individual to engage in homosexual activities.
Overcoming My Fear of Coming Out
I still get tense and nervous and start shaking just thinking about coming out again. Some days it's better; other days it's not.
I'm Gay and I've Never Wanted to Have Sex with Another Man
I don't want sex with another man like I don't want sex with a woman. And most days I just need someone to tell me that's okay.
I Know I'm A Hypocrite
I know I'm a hypocrite, yet I embrace that term and the things it entails because it shows that God can use me despite my flaws.
Why I Almost Left YOB
When YOB started, I was a regular. I was posting pretty much every week. I was reliable. Dependable. Always ready to share. And then I almost left it all.
Why I Used to Hate Sports
I love sports and competition. I love the push, the struggle, the fight toward victory. I love how my chest burns when I'm on the brink of exhaustion.
Things I'm Learning While Living With Another Guy
I bought a house. I'm officially living IN the city! I've had a roommate since day one. He's a great friend and brother in Christ.
When Friendship with a Guy Turns Unhealthy
One day my friend came home and found me in deep emotional turmoil. He directly asked me what was wrong, so I tried to explain what I was feeling about him.
Why I Need a Community
That's why you need a community. Whatever hurt you experience, you have people who can carry you on your path to recovery.
I Want to Protect My Daughter
I have mentioned before that I am a father. I want to protect my daughter. With the exception of Jesus and my wife, I have never loved a person so strongly.
No Codependency This Thanksgiving
I absolutely refuse to fall into codependency again — especially with a coworker. With whom I share an office. It would have been a terrible situation.
Would I Still Have Same-Sex Attraction If...?
My friend asks: Do you think you would have struggled with gender identity, sexual identity, and same-sex attraction if your family life had been different?
My Church Accepts Me
My church has accepted me for who I am and who God is making me into. And they are willing to walk with me down this road, whatever it looks like.
I Crashed and Burned
After going through all the crap my church threw at me, however, my love of the Lord lessened and my love of sex grew again. I crashed and burned.
Best Friends with a Straight Guy
I was best friends with a straight guy. We could live together and share hugs and other brotherly affection without worrying about falling into sexual sin.
Marginalized by the Church
I was glad I had not abandoned my friend when he strayed, and I was determined to keep being the right kind of friend for him.
Losing My Sexual Sobriety
I lost my sexual sobriety because I went in search of shortcuts to intimacy with other men. I knew it wouldn't satisfy. Just like all the other times.
The Day I Left My Church
I did my best not to break down, but I could feel the tears falling down my face. I sucked it up, took a deep breath, and walked out of the church.