You Are a Man and You are Awesome

I hit a rough patch a few years ago. Relationships disappeared and teetered. Temptations hit. Pitfalls ensued. I didn't have many go-to friends, and I spent mindless hours mired in online promiscuity.

And then I came across a video. Or perhaps the video came across me?It's called "Who You Are: A Message to All Men." I'm pretty sure I cried in the coffee shop where I first watched it; it hit me pretty deeply.

I had no idea how desperately I'd needed some guy – even some unknowable guy on the Internet – to tell me that I'm awesome.

I've watched and rewatched this video a dozen or two times since that night in the coffee shop, often in similar times of longing and desperation. Those times when I need to be reminded who I am – regardless of who I may think I am.

I am a writer.

I am capable.

I am a son.

I am bought and made new.

I am here to change the world.

I am a brother.

I am a man. And I am awesome.

As are all of you reading this, being here, adding to this brotherhood. This is who you are:

Do you struggle with your manhood? Do you ever describe yourself as "awesome" in a completely legitimate, non-ironic way?

Tom

tom@yourotherfamily.org

I’m the director of Your Other Brothers, as well as the executive director of our nonprofit ministry, Your Other Family. I’m an author of two memoirs, and I write and edit YOB’s blogs. I also love podcasting with the boyz! I’m an INFJ, Enneagram 4, and my spirit animal is the buffalo. I love traveling, and one of my greatest joys is anticipating the next big escapade. When I’m not wandering, I live in beautiful Asheville, North Carolina – the Jewel of the Blue Ridge. My favorite place in the world is the one where coffee and vulnerability meet.

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